Suze Lopez kept getting the question you’re never supposed to ask a woman: Are you pregnant?
It was perhaps understandable, in her case, because she was carrying a 22-pound ovarian cyst that had swollen her abdomen. Rather than take offense, the Bakersfield nurse gently explained that, no, she was not expecting.
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